Fear No More


I used to be really good at running from fear. From picking up and moving, starting a new job, heck (true story), I even changed my name at one point and went by my middle name!

My going to Australia, while one of the best decisions of my life, was brought on by fear of failing in my Masters of Social Work. I didn’t believe I “deserved” to be there. That I somehow was a fraud. I truly believed in my heart that I couldn’t succeed. So, when the opportunity came up to travel, I didn’t think twice…. Even with a full year of tuition already paid for!

The problem is, if you run from your fears they will follow you. You will never get stronger, tougher or grow. And you give yourself a false illusion that you have control over the future. By running you prove yourself right, you couldn’t do it.

I didn’t learn this until I had literally no choice but to face my fears. I left a position as an Equine Assisted Therapy coach in a Neuroplasticity program on really bad terms. My mental health was declining, due to the work environment, and I just could not watch what was going on anymore. When I resigned my boss turned on us and we were kicked out of the house we lived in, illegally might I add, and had nowhere to go (We lived on property). I will leave it at that because I truly want to leave that experience in the past.

After I left I was audited by Canada Revenue Agency and was found to have been an employee, NOT a sub contractor. This meant that I owed back taxes on TWO YEARS of employment, and every penny of it since none of my claims against taxes were now applicable.

To keep a very long story short this led to two years of my old boss battling the decision with CRA, and dragging me along for the ride. I DID think about how I could run from this problem. “What if CRA changes their mind, I face penalties for this…. And more back payments…”. But the greatest gift that woman ever gave me was putting me through this experience because man did I grow.

I had no choice but to stand tall, tell my story and face each fear, each audit, each question head on. I had no choice but to be strong. And, in the beginning I wasn’t. It nearly broke me. But with each appeal, and with the letter that came stating she was taking me and the government to the Tax Court of Canada, I grew stronger. And I realized I WOULD SURVIVE by facing this head on.

A couple days before we were due in tax court I was lying in bed and pulled my journal out from my night stand. Nervous, but happy to get this over with after 2 years of appeals, I wrote “Good always wins. The Truth is always revealed”. I tucked my journal back into my night stand and went to sleep. The next day I received notice that she withdrew and the nightmare was over.

I grew SO MUCH from the experience and I realized that if you run straight at your fears they get the hell out of your way. By facing down your fears you grow as a person. You get stronger. You gain more confidence in you and your capabilities (Which, are endless by the way).

By facing your fears they seem so silly and insignificant. You will one day ask “How did I ever wonder how I would get through that?”. You will amaze yourself at how much you will grow.

Fears and obstacles are to be taken head on. Stop running. It doesn’t fix anything.

Have an amazing, blessed, Friday friends.

xo

Ashley

Unf*ck Your Life


Coming Summer 2019: Unf*ck Your Life

You are a badass. You have limitless potential. You have the ability to build the sanctuary of your dreams, to build a six figure business or finally start your couch to 5k…

But first you need to get out of your own way and unf*ck yourself.

Ask yourself:

How long have you allowed your thoughts to stop you from taking action on your dreams and goals?

How long have you wanted to do something but failed to take action? Unless you count continuing the scroll through Instagram in a desperate bid to AVOID the action you really need to take!

And I have to ask:

Are you tired of the positivity movement and feel MORE down on yourself for not being able to maintain positive thoughts 24/7? That shit just makes you feel like a failure because very few people are hardwired to be pissing rainbows of positivity 24/7. I am certainly not one of them!

Reality Check:

Do you think Ghandi, Rosa Parks or Steve Jobs were never gripped with uncertainty? That they never woke up to self doubt, or the doubt of others? That they didn’t have sleepless nights? That their genius was just one day bestowed upon them to share with us!

Hell no!

They were gripped by the same fears, self limiting beliefs and self doubt that any of us are but they took action anyway. They pushed aside the obstacles in their way and continued to strive into the unknown.

They took action DESPITE their doubts or mindset on any given day.

People can have perfect rainbow and butterfly positivity thoughts, 24/7, and accomplish absolutely nothing in life. Going through life spouting out positive affirmation after positive affirmation without taking ACTION.

And there are people, despite bad backgrounds and a mind that wanders, that put aside their self doubt, take action and accomplish their goals DESPITE their mindset.

Positive thinking is not a predictor of accomplishment any more than a negative mindset predicts failure.

STOP WAITING!

I am tired of people thinking they have to wait for a new mindset to change their life.

You have to learn how to act independently of your thoughts. To stop focusing on your thoughts and focus on ACTION! And, you already know how to do it! You drag yourself to a job you hate, pay taxes and pay bills despite really not wanting to do it! We simply need to focus this ability on actions that move you forward in life!

Also, you must learn how to be relentless in the pursuit of your goals!

In this 3 month mastermind course you will follow through a proven system to master your mindset, take action and unlock your true potential.

It is not about getting everything just right. About waiting for lightning to strike you in the a$$. Just get up and take action. Messy inspired action. The more you flex the get up and go muscle the easier it becomes!

So let’s set big goals, take action and live the life you have wanted for far too long!

In this course you will learn how to change your life by changing your ACTIONS!

To be added to the waiting list please fill out the form below!