“Sometimes you just have to grind it out, stake your claim on your goal and hustle, hard, for what you want MOST in life” ~ Ashley Eve
From the nervousness and doubt we feel when we take risks in our careers, to the butterflies in our bellies when we are waiting for our dressage test, the shortness of breath as we push for the final 5 minutes of our run, or the soreness in our muscles as we start a new weight training program. Our largest successes are born out of discomfort, uncertainty and risk.
Anytime you’re working to achieve something big you are working against the current. Often the opinions of the people around you are trying to push and pull you away from your destination and sometimes those closest to you can be the loudest naysayers.
Often you will hear “You are making a mistake”, “it is impossible to reach that goal” or “You will fail”. The more unique and out of the box your goals the stronger the push back will be. And, I have to admit here that I have heard the LOUDEST opposition from family and it can be very hard to receive this criticism when your OWN thoughts are trying to derail your big dreams. Even the seemingly innocent “Sleeping in won’t make that big of a difference!” are self limiting beliefs trying to stop you on your way to greatness.
The most successful among us got to where they are today because they transcended obstacles, setbacks and negativity both from others and themselves.
This, of course, is easier said than done. And this is why so many businesses, diets, athletic pursuits and health goals fail. It is one to thing to say “Never give up” (and truthfully, I am tired of bumper sticker type motivational quotes), or to post a bunch of motivational one liner memes on your Facebook account, and quite another to actually become tenacious and grind it out NO. MATTER. WHAT.
Here is the truth that everyone needs to hear:
The world does not stop you from succeeding. The universe is not conspiring for you to fail.
The reality is the universe is conspiring neither for nor against you, and the only thing that stops you from succeeding IS YOU.
Once you have convinced yourself that you will fail you are then stopped dead in your tracks. Until then it is on like Donkey Kong.
One of my favourite quotes is this:
It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it” ~ Aristotle
The reason I love this quote so much is that every single successful person has had setbacks, self limiting beliefs and obstacles. Every single person has thought they may fail, has wondered if they could accomplish their goals and debated between sleeping in and working on their goals. HOWEVER the successful entertain those thoughts but push forward regardless.
Don’t believe me?
Consider everything that has been considered impossible in history. Putting a man on the moon. Diseases we have cured. Or, the fact that flying would have been considered impossible before it was done. Think about this: If you went up to someone in the 1700’s and told them people would, one day, be able to fly in a metal tube across the world they would have likely sent you to the local mental health facility for some shock therapy!
The Wright brothers, however, did not accept that flight was impossible, and they did not allow their lack of funding hold them back. They failed over and over again but they did not give up. They had many naysayers as well as no physical proof that flight was even possible, yet they pushed forward. And, look where we are now.
Your goals ARE possible. However, don’t be fooled by the self-help bullshit and the universe will give you what you desire fluff. You don’t deserve it. No one does. Those statements will leave you waiting and wanting and eventually make you fall victim to your own life. You just have to grind that shit out, stake your claim on your goal and hustle HARD for what you want.
You quite literally have to MAKE IT HAPPEN.
So, when someone looks at you and says your idea will never happen or if your subconscious beliefs tell you that you will “fail anyway, so why try” you have two choices:
- You can succumb to the notion that you don’t know what you are doing, you don’t have what it takes and it is a waste of time/ money.
- You can disagree and refuse to accept it. You have the option to say “No, you’re wrong, and I’m going to prove it”.
The impossible only becomes possible when you believe it is. Your reality is what you BELIEVE to be possible or impossible. You can fail at something 1000 times and on try 1001 succeed. Had you given up on try 1000 you would have proven yourself right, that your goal was impossible. YOU, and only you, create your reality.
The truth is that no one can prove what is or is not possible. It just takes someone with enough tenacity to come along and not give up until it is done.
Further, my biggest pet peeve is when someone says “the market is saturated, I can’t come along now and do the same thing”.
The market isn’t saturated. The world has not seen your idea or take on it. Instead, re-frame your mindset and realize that if someone else has done it before it means that you can too! Instead of seeing the market as saturated see it as an opportunity to produce your results faster by learning from others.
There is a wondrous, magical life out there waiting for you in the unknown.
And while, yes, working to achieve it will NOT be all rainbows and butterflies all the time there is a reality waiting for you that is far beyond the one you are currently wasting away in.
Ask yourself: Is your dream worth working hard for? Is it worth getting up early for? Are you willing to be uncomfortable now for your dreams? Are you willing to give up what you want RIGHT NOW for what you want most?
If the answer is yes, you are willing, then stop making excuses and go out there and accomplish it. Skinned knees, bumps and bruises provide great stories to tell so don’t be afraid of falling.