I would like you to take a moment for reflection. What are the main thoughts that are on repeat in your mind throughout the day. What stories do you tell yourself, and how are those stories limiting your true potential.
Starting today I want you to make the conscious effort to eliminate the following low vibe phrases from your vocabulary:
I don’t know.
These words take the power AWAY from you, when you are actually powerful beyond measure. These thoughts, and words, will stop you from taking risks on the things you really want in life. And, the worst part is none of them are true.
Now that you have eliminated those words from your vocabulary I need you to make the conscious effort to fill your vocabulary with the following high vibe phrases today:
🗝️I am a badass.
🗝️The answers are on their way.
What you may not yet realize is that what comes out of your mouth comes into your life, so choose your words, and thoughts, wisely.
At this point I often hear “but I am so unhappy in my job, I can’t be positive” or “I can’t lose the weight no matter what I do…”.
These are all your perceptions of reality. Made up stories you tell yourself.
Even if you HATE your full time job and it brings tears to your eyes, and your soul wilts, at the thought of even going in CHOOSE power words. Take your power back.
I CHOOSE to go into work because it funds my personal business I am building.
I LOVE that (employer) is the main financial supporter of my business.
It is also your CHOICE to hate your situation and do nothing about it, whether it is your job, weight, relationship, etc. The reality is NOT that you cannot be successful. The reality is not that you cannot lose the weight.
The reality IS you are choosing not to do the behaviours that will lead to success.
You are CHOOSING to stay miserable or you are CHOOSING to be happy.
Whether you believe it or not you ALWAYS have a choice.
I want nothing more than to leave an impact on this world by creating badass women that realize they have no limits and truly go for it.
I used to be really good at running from fear. From picking up and moving, starting a new job, heck (true story), I even changed my name at one point and went by my middle name!
My going to Australia, while one of the best decisions of my life, was brought on by fear of failing in my Masters of Social Work. I didn’t believe I “deserved” to be there. That I somehow was a fraud. I truly believed in my heart that I couldn’t succeed. So, when the opportunity came up to travel, I didn’t think twice…. Even with a full year of tuition already paid for!
The problem is, if you run from your fears they will follow you. You will never get stronger, tougher or grow. And you give yourself a false illusion that you have control over the future. By running you prove yourself right, you couldn’t do it.
I didn’t learn this until I had literally no choice but to face my fears. I left a position as an Equine Assisted Therapy coach in a Neuroplasticity program on really bad terms. My mental health was declining, due to the work environment, and I just could not watch what was going on anymore. When I resigned my boss turned on us and we were kicked out of the house we lived in, illegally might I add, and had nowhere to go (We lived on property). I will leave it at that because I truly want to leave that experience in the past.
After I left I was audited by Canada Revenue Agency and was found to have been an employee, NOT a sub contractor. This meant that I owed back taxes on TWO YEARS of employment, and every penny of it since none of my claims against taxes were now applicable.
To keep a very long story short this led to two years of my old boss battling the decision with CRA, and dragging me along for the ride. I DID think about how I could run from this problem. “What if CRA changes their mind, I face penalties for this…. And more back payments…”. But the greatest gift that woman ever gave me was putting me through this experience because man did I grow.
I had no choice but to stand tall, tell my story and face each fear, each audit, each question head on. I had no choice but to be strong. And, in the beginning I wasn’t. It nearly broke me. But with each appeal, and with the letter that came stating she was taking me and the government to the Tax Court of Canada, I grew stronger. And I realized I WOULD SURVIVE by facing this head on.
A couple days before we were due in tax court I was lying in bed and pulled my journal out from my night stand. Nervous, but happy to get this over with after 2 years of appeals, I wrote “Good always wins. The Truth is always revealed”. I tucked my journal back into my night stand and went to sleep. The next day I received notice that she withdrew and the nightmare was over.
I grew SO MUCH from the experience and I realized that if you run straight at your fears they get the hell out of your way. By facing down your fears you grow as a person. You get stronger. You gain more confidence in you and your capabilities (Which, are endless by the way).
By facing your fears they seem so silly and insignificant. You will one day ask “How did I ever wonder how I would get through that?”. You will amaze yourself at how much you will grow.
Fears and obstacles are to be taken head on. Stop running. It doesn’t fix anything.
As someone that has, previously, suffered from chronic anxiety and depression my mission is to help adult women overcome chronic worry, stress and anxiety holistically.
In the depths of my depression and anxiety I still had a dream. A vision for a better life. I would lie on the couch complaining that I didn’t have that vision. Depressed due to things I had, or had not, done in the past. Decisions I labeled bad or good. “How could I have been SO stupid to move for that job…”, “Why did I not take that opportunity when it came up… That would have been ME living that life!”, the thoughts pulled me down like an anchor. And I was anxious about the future. Oh, was I anxious. Anxious to the point I pulled at my hair, my hair fell out and I broke out into full blown adult acne. I also won a night at a sleep clinic due to full blown insomnia. I couldn’t sleep to save my life. I was exhausted.
I was medicated on and off for anxiety. I tried therapy, and while I am a huge advocate for seeking the assistance of a therapist and using medication to support recovery, there was still something missing.
No matter how many medications I used my mindset didn’t change. I was still emotional eating Harvey’s deep fried pickles and eating a full bag of chips a night, often to the point where my heart hurt from the binge eating. I KNEW I should workout. I KNEW I should eat better. I KNEW the choice was mine.
Hell, I WAS a counsellor! I knew the ways to improve my mindset, the holistic approaches I could take, but is it ever hard to get off the couch and get started. It feels like you are stuck in quick sand, and it is exhausting just trying to pull yourself out.
One night, locked in the bathroom by myself, crying on the cold floor I decided enough was enough. You see, to change our lives we need either inspiration or desperation. I was desperate. I knew the path I was going down and it wasn’t good. I committed to changing my life… But tomorrow. How often do we say tomorrow?
The universe heard my call and responded, as she always does. I was mindlessly scrolling Instagram and I saw a post about an online coaching opportunity. It was the kick in the pants I needed to get my life on track, and did I ever. I took it for the sign it was and jumped all in. My financial reality changed, I am building a life I am proud of, my vision board is consistently having big ticket items crossed off and, the most important, I LOVE my life! I incorporate self development into my everyday reality and between that, the endless possibilities this opportunity presented AND the amazing tribe of women I have met I am but a shadow of my previous self, and that is something to celebrate.
Is this to say I never have bad days? Of course not. Anxiety and depression will lurk in the shadows, waiting for a chance to try and pull me back down. The difference is now it is but a fleeting feeling. A tug I feel that I promptly kick in the face. Through taking a holistic approach to healing I am off my anxiety medication and living my best life.
I am such a firm believer in a holistic, whole person approach, to dealing with anxiety. The research is endless on the benefits, and here is some research to help you understand how essential it is for you to start an exercise program to help overcome your anxiety:
The problem? It can be SO hard to get started. That is why I am so passionate about coaching people through this time in their life. Had I not found my tribe, and found this coaching opportunity, I would still be wasting my life away medicated on my couch complaining about how things never go right for me.
My mission, boiled down, is to help women reach their true potential. And living in the suck. Living in the poor habits that have created anxiety for us. That have created depression. That is not a way to step into our greatness. What got you there, won’t get you here. You have to do things you have never done to achieve greatness you have never achieved.
I want every woman to wake up in the morning and think “How effing great am I?”, “Man, I am a damn Rockstar!” and hit the ground running chasing their dreams and goals. No obstacles is too great. No setback too large. You are on a mission to a greater life and I want to guide you there.
I am so proud to offer the programs I currently use to help you in your journey. I know they will transform your life, and I can’t wait to bring you the SOS Method: Holistic Healing to Chronic Stress and Worry, in the coming months.
For now, know I am here when you are ready to start. I am here when you are ready to step into your greatness. I am here when you hit either inspiration or desperation. I am simply here. Let’s do this, together.
I get it, you want to change your life. You want to get fit. You want to join my team and start your own online business. You can just feel the sense of pride knowing you are changing someone’s life and setting yourself up for financial freedom!!! You can see the house of your dreams in intricate detail.
Or, you want to start the cupcake bakery of your dreams! Oh, you can just smell the cooking cupcakes and you can visualize your first customer walking through the door as the bell dings, to alert you that your first customer walked in! But…..
You don’t have the money.
Suddenly you are sucked back to reality and your dreams seem like a distance memory, obscured by fog and trees.
I mean, how can you start a business, get started with your fitness journey or bake cupcakes when you don’t have the money. And, I do understand. I have been there. I certainly wasn’t born into money. Heck, I declared bankruptcy in my early 20’s.
But, let me tell you the biggest secret that is going to unlock new levels to your life: What you focus on expands. If you focus on being broke as a stray dog, you will be broke as a stray dog and you will ONLY see the lack.
BUT if you focus on attracting money. believe it or not, you will find ways to bring money to you. Money is simply energy, and you can attract energy.
Look, it is just as easy to believe we are giant sucking things as it is to believe we are magical creatures of unlimited potential. Which one do you want to believe? The choice really is yours.
I mean here is a reality check: If you had to come up with $100 TODAY to save the life of your dog would you? If your phone took a swim in the washer and no longer worked how long would it take for you to manifest the $800 to replace it? I wager only as long as it takes to get to the store.
You see, the problem is never lack of resources. The problem is lack of resourcefulness.
And, if you say “Well, starting my own business or getting fit isn’t as important as the fancy new phone being released by Huawei”, well, then you have your answer on why your health sucks, you are one corn dog away from a heart attack and why you are stuck in a job you hate. We will FIND A WAY when things are important to us.
Without further ado here is your starting place for attracting $100 today.
Do the Gary V Challenge! This man is a genius and he will show you that $100 is just the tip of the iceberg.
To get money you must have positive money mantras. So, immediately drop the “Money sucks”, “I will always be broke”, “Good things never happen to me”, pathetic untrue mantras. Adopt a new money mantra.
And, also drop the sideways glare! I promise, it works!
Here are a couple to get you started:
I love money because it allows me to travel.
I am grateful for money because it gives me a roof over my head.
I attract money through my success mindset.
I have all the money I need to accomplish my goals.
This is where I will lose people, and I understand that. When I first heard about the law of attraction I was a counsellor. We were going through Neuroplasticity training and I legitimately thought people had lost their mind. In a huff I sarcastically uttered “Ya, and I want a million dollars… You don’t see me winning any lottery!”. The problem is we often come from that mindset: lack. We are pissed at money and convinced we will always be broke. Negativity only attracts more negativity.
I spent a lot of years jealous about people lucky enough to have a horse from Blazing Colours Farm. For 5 years I spent every spring thinking “I wish I could have one of her horses”, “I am too broke to ever afford a horse from that farm”, “Oh, how nice it must be to be born into money”. And, for 5 years I couldn’t afford a horse from her farm.
In 2018 I accepted the law of attraction and decided come hell or high water, I get one shot on this floating rock, I am going to make it count, damnit! I emailed the owner of the farm and asked about a breeding. At the time I was making barely above minimum wage and already had 2 horses. There was nothing about me that screamed “You can afford a horse from that farm”. In fact, looking at me you would have thought “Is this girl actually insane?!”. My husband thought I was, that is for sure! But I knew I could attract the money into my life to make it happen!
I started applying to jobs like applying to jobs was my job! I got turned down by all of them, which was probably good because none of them allowed me enough to pay my new bills and, well, you know, eat! Then. The final place called. Not only was I offered the job but it allowed me to make payments on the baby AND eat! Que singing chorus of angels!
I share this because I WASTED 5 years feeling too sorry for myself to take action. 5 years.
If there is a will, there is a way. If you WANT something you WILL find a way.
Write down the 5 most common limiting beliefs you, or your friends, use to talk about money. Then immediately write down why that is not true.
When you write down how silly your beliefs actually are it gives you power to overcome them!
If I told you that I would give you a million dollars if you found a way to make $100 within the next 24 hours, would you? Yes, you would. You would sell items lying around your house, offer to shovel driveways/ cut lawn, pick up overtime at work… You would do what it took to come up with $100!
Put What You Learned Together!
I would be happy to go into more detail on how to GET RICH (not quick but get rich!) living your dream but I want to start with changing your perceptions about money. And that is all these steps are about. Reframing your mindset around money and helping you get resourceful to find the money!
Also, the way you view things has a profound effect on what you bring into your life. If you saw these steps and rolled your eyes and snickered, I feel bad for you because you will be stuck in the same ho-hummery I was stuck in for 5 years, wishing for something better but refusing to take action because ” Good things don’t happen to me”, “I will always be broke”, etc. Sure, food dulls the pain but only for so long, especially when you start to ALSO feeling sorry for yourself because of the weight you have gained!
Until you realize what you can and can’t afford is all in your mind you will not realize your true potential, because, let’s face it everything requires money! You can either be addicted to results of your drama. Choose results.