Pity Party or Pool Party

As I sit here amongst a herd of babies, one of which being my own, I have realized something:

Everything in life is a choice brought on by our thoughts which developed our perception of reality.

Sometimes life goes sideways, and you wonder how you got to where you are or how you could ever stand back up. I have been there many times for varying reasons both in and out of the horse world.

I remember vividly the day I was told my 8 year old eventer had osteoarthritis in his spine and would be a pasture puff.

My heart hit the ground as all the dreams and visions that had played on repeat in my head, for 4 years, went up in flames before my eyes.

I also had to scrape myself up off the floor months later when I hit rock bottom thinking that not only was my horse retired. My heart horse. The one every single dream was attached to. But I hated my job. Not just the usual “would rather be on vaca than here”. It was destroying my soul. I barely pulled it together to last 7.5 hours, even on days I was medicated for the depression it caused.

Nothing seemed to be going right.

But, what we must remember, is that amongst all the crap you can still choose your attitude, intentions and focus.

When I finally looked myself in the mirror and said “sister, you need to wash the running mascara off and get your crap together” everything changed. Not the situations I was in. They still sucked. But my mindset shifted and it allowed me to focus on the gratitude, the amazing things I DID have going for me, and focus on building the life of my dreams.

I focused on the positive.

You can have the best plan. The best coaches. The best team but if you don’t have the right attitude you are dead in the water.

On days where I think about joining the circus, flying off to Australia or drinking a whole box of wine forcing myself to have a positive attitude is what saves me.

Choosing to find the positive is how I stay happy. And choosing to find the positive is how you will stay happy.

Not just ok. Not just getting by.

Truly happy.

Now, I am not happy 95% of the time because my life is unfolding in a way that makes it easy.

Heck sister, I am STILL at the job I talked about above but now I choose to see the company as funding the business I am building in coaching. So not only is it funding my dream but it is helping me ignite the dreams of others.

Pretty badass, if you ask me. And, a much more productive attitude to choose.

How do I do it?

In both my fitness and mindset coaching I am blunt and honest so here it is:

It is hard work.

I choose the positive in life. Every single day.

I choose to practice gratitude. I choose to surround myself with people that practice positivity and with things that bring me joy.

I surround myself with people that are also badass go getters that want more from life. That don’t allow me to wallow or feel sorry for myself.

And here is some important truth:

I regulate my thoughts because thoughts control feelings.

Feelings become behaviours.

Behaviours become actions.

And just like that your whole world is clouded by the fog of that one crappy thought.

Yes. It is that simple for one crappy thought of:

I am a failure.

I will never be good enough.

I am ugly.

To derail your whole darn life.

Are you actively regulating your thoughts?

Are you even aware of the thoughts that have become a soundtrack playing in your head?

Are you working to control the way you think of yourself and speak to yourself?

You have to choose to be positive. To see possibility. And no one can do it for you.

There is not one thing running through your mind that you don’t allow to be there.

That you ALLOW to be there.

Everytime you find yourself thinking something negative stop the hateful litany and replace it with something positive.

Like any muscle the positivity and gratitude muscle will become stronger with time. It is true.

Whether you are in a season of ease or hardship you need to realize YOU are still the one that controls how you see it. YOU. Which means only you can change it.

This is real life. Not a fairy tale.

Do not think for one moment it will be easy all the time no matter who you are,what you have or where you live.

Real life sucks sometimes.

And you will have whole seasons that will try to rob you of the energy you need to pursue your goal. Yes, it will happen so be prepared.

But you still have hopes and dreams and they are possible if you keep going.

Some days you will be sprinting towards them with the energy and grace of a gazelle, despite lack of sleep because of kids or a horse show.

Other days you will be crawling and inching your way, wondering if the pace you are going at is making any difference at all.

But you need to keep moving forward. You have to keep yourself in the game. As long as you don’t quit you are STILL IN THE GAME.

You can’t control the circumstances of your life but you can control your reaction TO them.

And, if tough times are going to happen anyway is it not much more productive to see the positive and keep moving forward rather than drowning in self pity, posting vague pity me Facebook updates and starting over once your motivation returns?

When put like that is it not obvious it is a choice!

If you take nothing else from this whole post please remember:

Your thoughts become behaviours. Your behaviours become actions. Your actions shape your reality.



Kinesiology Taping- Your horses uses it but should you?

Like the good equestrian you are your horse has experienced the wonders of kinesiology taping but you haven’t tried it for yourself yet! And, truthfully, your horse isn’t giving you the low down on exactly HOW they feel with it on! Yes, you notice improved performance and faster healing time of injuries but is it really due to the tape?

You are probably asking yourself if you should be trying it for your aches, pains and injuries!

The short answer is YES!

I will also provide you with a proper long answer!

How do the brightly coloured racing stripes actually work?

Kinesiology tape was first developed in the 1970s by Japanese chiropractor Kenzo Kase. Dr Kase was searching for a way to facilitate the body’s natural healing process and prolong the benefits of his treatment after his patients left his clinic.

In 2003 the team started “experimenting” on equine athletes and, as we all know, the rest is history as it is a common therapeutic practice in horses as well now!!

Kinesiology tape is very popular among top athletes, and for good reason! IT WORKS!

As a side note: I personally ONLY recommend the brand Theraband Xact Stretch. It easily lasts 3x longer and is more effective than other brands.

True story… This stuff is absolutely worth your money!

Kinesiology tape offers structural and/ or muscle support; it can correct postural problems and increase blood flow and lymphatic drainage.

When the tape is applied correctly ( I REPEAT…. WHEN APPLIED CORRECTLY!!!) the tape lifts the skin to create a small space between the muscle and dermis layers. That space takes the pressure off swollen or injured muscles, allows smooth muscle movement and makes space for drainage and blood flow.

I also find if you tend to have fascia that gets easily tacked down in a specific area the kinesiology tape goes a long way in helping to relieve this so you can correct the root problem.

I am currently using the tape for a back strain. I also applied the rib application because the strain is causing fascia is get tacked down around my ribs.

If you ever wonder if this tape actually works try ripping the tape off before it is ready…. It leaves a nasty burn but you will also see how the tape actually LIFTED the skin between the woven fibers. Now, this was not a challenge. Please do not actually rip it off. Allow it to fall off naturally. It will actually leave a nasty burn if you pull it. I did it by accident when I first started using it!


What does research say?

Research is mostly inconclusive on the tape. There is some research that supports it’s effectiveness in helping with short term pain. Other research claims there is no long term benefit.

I find the claims of no long term benefit misleading.

I have, first hand, witnessed and experienced, the immediate benefits this tape has provided. I have also experienced the significantly decreased healing time. I have used it for my chronic back problems from an old injury, as well as shin splints and a herniated disk. It has also been in frequent rotation for an old tear in my shoulder which has turned into arthritis (Yes, I can predict the weather with my shoulder!).

There are immediate benefits when applied correctly. Literally IMMEDIATE relief and benefits.

Here is where the problem lies: Nothing has long term benefits if you don’t fix the root cause. If you are getting shin splints, there is a reason. Use the tape to assist you in your recovery BUT fix the root cause of why you got shin splints in the first place! This is why I think the research is flawed. The tape DOES have immediate benefits, which will turn into long term benefits if the user actually does the necessary rehab and prehab.

It is not a band aid.

Common Errors

My main concern is using it as a band aid and not fixing the root cause of issues, as addressed above. However, I do have another concern.

Kinesiology tape is not for fancy racing stripes. Yes, there are videos online about how to tape BUT if you literally have no idea about the musculoskeletal system and proper taping PLEASE, for the love of all things sacred, go to a Physio to learn how to tape your issues properly. Even with my knowledge of the body, rehab and prehab I went to a Physio, with my hubby, so we could both learn how to tape.

You are correct, you won’t HURT yourself taping improperly but you certainly won’t help anything either. I am sure there are other things you could do with $25 than draw patterns on your body for no other reason than to have stripes. Pretty sure the dollar store has some fancy temporary tattoos for $1 if you want that!


A taping I use often for Achilles pain if I ramp up running too fast.

I highly highly recommend using it. Recently I tore a muscle in my back and it has literally been a life saver. It has provided immediate relief and is allowing me to effectively complete my rehab and also continue my running. If you have some aches or pains definitely go out and buy THERABAND tape and learn how to apply it properly!

Also, if you are a rider AND runner you can use it for shin splints if you are just starting to run again. As I follow a PROPER running program I find taping from the get go helps with easing back into running.

The best parts about this? It is drug free, has no ill effects AND you can match your horse with the same colours or match the tape to your eventing colours! Win. Win. Win.

Now, go out and ride peeps!