I read a lovely story recently that will help put into perspective how our perception becomes our reality.
The story is about a woman who walks to a stream many miles away, fills her two clay pots with water, and carries them back to her house, dangling each pot from either side of a long stick that she drapes across her shoulders. When she arrives home each day with the water one of the pots is full and the other is nearly empty.
The almost empty pot is sad and feels like a failure because it’s crack is causing all the water to leak out on the path home. The pot feels like it does a bad job because it’s only job is to bring water to the house, and it can’t even do that right. The pot compares itself to the other pot and only sees the large crack and how it isn’t as perfect as the other pot. The cracked pot tells the woman how ashamed it is but the woman tells the pot something wonderful.
(And here, my beautiful friend, comes the lesson in imperfections and failure.)
She says: Did you notice that there were flowers only on your side of the path, but not on the other pot’s side? That’s because I have always known about your flaw, and I planted flower seeds on your side of the path, and every day while we walk back, you’ve watered them. For two years I have been able to pick these beautiful flowers to decorate the table. For two year the bees, butterflies and birds have fourished because of you.
The moral of the story:
Everything in our reality is reflected back to us depending on how we choose to perceive it. Your “flaws” are either strikes against you to part of what makes you unique and badass- it’s your choice. You are constantly creating your reality through your thoughts and those thoughts are going to shape the actions you then take.
Learn to find beauty in all of your perfections and imperfections, because both of them make you YOU. Stop beating yourself up and berating yourself because you aren’t like everyone else. CELEBRATE that you are different. Share your different with the world!
Not only is loving yourself a more joyful way to go through life, but you never know what brilliance might sprout up from your temporary setbacks and failures. We grow in those times. Pressure is going to force you to grow. Embrace it. Lean into it. It is very possible you will wind up creating something far more beautiful than what you had originally set out to create, and that you would have never known had you not “failed” or screwed up.